To all women, particularly if you have the care of a child who is alienated from their father and/or their paternal/maternal grandparents.
Today is international women’s day, where women all over the world are celebrated as peace makers, caregivers, hard workers, forward thinkers and much, much, more.
My plea is simple take a step forward, try and build a new relationship with those that are estranged from you and your child/children.
Firstly though may I stress, that if you believe you or your child/children are in any danger of physical or psychological abuse, seek professional help to safeguard yourself and your child/children, do not attempt to build these bridges on your own.
There are many reasons for communication breakdown some are really serious and take time to work through, some are trivial slights that have become even greater with the passage of time as we hang on to the negativity of some perceived injury to our personality, the way we dress, the way we raise our children, a comment that was made? What we do for a living etc.
Sound familiar? Well it should, we can all take things the wrong way sometimes both men and women!
What I ask is this, you try and work through this for the sake of the children, no parent wants to deny their child contact with the other parent or grandparents, (unless as I stated earlier, it is a safeguarding issue).
Take that first step, draw a line in the sand and say what is past is past, forgive and move on, write a letter/email if it helps, set out new ground rules for your relationships to move forward.
Alienation is fast becoming recognised as a form of psychological abuse know as PAS.
Parental Alienation Syndrome is the deliberate attempt by one parent to distance his/her children from the other parent. The motivation is to destroy the parental bond between his/her children with the other parent.
The impact of PAS on a child has far reaching consequences on a child’s ability to form and maintain relationships in the future, but it also has a negative impact on their behaviour in general.
Make a difference to your child’s future, by forgiving and moving forward and helping your child cultivate and maintain their relationships with their parent, grandparent and extended family.
You will be proud you did and so will your child, who will one day become a parent themselves and make you a grandparent.
Happy International Women’s Day!