Join Us for Tea & Cake this Friday 4th July We are Truly Independent!

Grandparent Support tea and cake July 14

Advertisements

News of this weeks Tea & Cake event

This month’s get together is on this Friday 6th June 11am-1pm All Welcome!

 

tea & cake

 

If you are a grandparent that has been denied contact and you would like to meet other grandparents in the same situation, come along to one of our Tea & Cake events.

We welcome all alienated grandparents and other members of the family too, alienation affects the whole family.
Many compare it to a living bereavement, we offer tea and empathy and support for each other.
It’s not all doom and gloom! Meeting with others who are going through or have gone through alienation, is invaluable they know your pain and feel the same anguish, come
along and support each other, we help each other smile too!

The First Friday of every Month
11;00am -1:00pm at
Whitemoss Youth & Community
Centre Southdown Crescent,
Blackley Manchester M9 7DQ

Ironically 12th of June will be the first anniversary of a contact order  between the adults that has been in place and NOT BROKEN ONCE since agreed last year! It can be done! It takes flexibility and open negotiation on all sides for the child to benefit!

Welcome to Grandparent Support Greater Manchester

Grandparent Support wishes to raise awareness of all  the issues that contemporary grandparents face, we need your help to circulate our leaflet so that we may help others to help themselves, by setting up support groups tailor made for specific needs, throughout the North West.

What is Grandparent Support?

Grandparent Support is an online and community based support network set up for all grandparents who need support, whether you are raising your grandchildren or you have no contact with them.

Who do we support?

      The “Sandwich Generation”

      Grandparent Carers & their Families

      Alienated Grandparents & their Families

We also welcome other alienated members of the family, from parents or step-parents, brothers and sisters, to aunties, uncles and cousins.

Supporting Alienated Grandparents and their Families

There are over 1 million Grandparents who are alienated from their grandchildren in the UK alone. It is also a worldwide problem.

Alienation can happen for a variety of reasons, including:

forgetme not

Relationship breakdown

Bereavement

Substance abuse

Domestic violence

Family squabbles

Debt

Homelessness

If you have been alienated as part of a break-up process, or are no longer in contact with your grandchild for any reason, we can support you with ideas and information on how to move forward. We also have a monthly support group that you can attend.

Supporting Grandparent Carers and their Families

There are up to 300,000 grandparent carers in the UK: grandparents who are bringing up grandchildren that live with them (resident grandchildren).

There are many more that care for their grandchildren while a parent works – some of these grandparents do not even consider themselves grandparent carers!

If you would like to know what help is available in your area or wish to meet up with other grandparent carers, come along to one of our support group meetings.

Supporting the “Sandwich Generation” of Grandparents

The ‘Sandwich Generation’ is a term applied to grandparents who are looking after their grandchildren and taking care of their elderly relatives too.

As our population increases in age and more and more people choose to live independently as they grow older, many grandparents have a dual role of caring for both young and old alike.

This can put increasing pressure on this age group (typically 45-65), many of whom are still working.

We wish to support grandparents who find themselves in this situation, and are finding it increasingly difficult to juggle these responsibilities. Come and join us for support.

Support in your area

If you would like a support group in your area or you are willing to help run one voluntarily, please contact us.

A group can be just once a month, or however frequently your group prefers.

No experience is needed just your time, energy and empathy.

All Volunteers are required to supply up-to-date references and undergo an enhanced DBS (CRB) check.

Contact Grandparent Support

Write to:

Geraldine Walsh-Whiteside

Grandparent Support Ltd.

C/o  WhiteMoss Youth & Community Centre, Southdown Crescent,  Blackley, Manchester. M9 7DQ

 

EmailGrandparentsupport@hotmail.com

A reply is usually guaranteed within 48hrs.

 

Find us online:

http://twitter.com/grandparentsupp

www.facebook.com/GrandparentSupport

http://grandparentsupport.org

To download our leaflet click Grandparent Support Manchester Trifold Leaflet

 

Thank you for your helpforgetme not

 

The Simple Act of Forgiveness

I have long since learned to forgive, just small things, then some huge, but never more so than in the battle to see my granddaughter.

Forgiveness is also about your own pre-conceived notions and how to eradicate them, you need to take a step back and re-evaluate.

Fine words- hard to put into practice unless you try, try and try again.

How do you go about it? Well that all depends on the offence or level of it, could you forgive someone for stealing from you? For me it depends on what they stole but more importantly why they stole it?

Was it just to have whatever they stole as a possession? They didn’t have what you had, and maybe their envy caused them to steal?

Maybe they stole to survive, would you still condemn and thus not forgive?

I suppose that all comes down to the offence.

I have often said here that you must not break the law to prove your point, it may attract attention in the short term, but it does nothing for your long term goal, does it?

Or does it? Well that all depends on the law of the land at that particular time doesn’t it.

Think Nelson Mandela and then have a re-think, why was he jailed in the first place? Why was he freed? Why and how did he change history?

Then think again about his strongest message- forgiveness.

If you are a grandparent reading this, forgive and build bridges to move forward.

If you are a parent reading this, forgive and build bridges to move forward.

If you are a politician and law maker reading this, adapt and change law to move forward.

If you are a child reading this, forgive them for they know not what they do!

‘Cinderella’ emotional cruelty law considered’

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-26814427

 

Proof, that we are the Jam in the nation’s sandwich!

In my research over the last few months, some older men & women do not even recognise that they are grandparent carer’s! – a grandparent that cares regularly for their grandchild so the parent can work, or one who is a kinship carer- the child lives with the grandparent.

It will be no surprise therefore, that they certainly won’t recognise themselves as “the sandwich generation” those men & women who care for grandchildren and their own elderly parents too!

I have just read the Institute for Public Policy Research’s (IPPR) publication on

The sandwich generation: Older women balancing work and care

“The contribution that older women make to their families and to the economy needs

to be more widely recognised. Older women provide vital support to families, enabling

many people to (re-)enter the workforce and supporting growth in the workplace and

in consumption. There is therefore a great need to provide better support to older

women, both at home and in the workplace. The following recommendations set out

some strategies that could better support older women who work and/or care, and

specifically the grandparents who often find themselves wedged in the middle of the

‘sandwich generation”

(This excerpt is from the published Article you can download it from their website, click on the link below.)

http://www.ippr.org/publication/55/11168/the-sandwich-generation-older-women-balancing-work-and-care

…and their Conclusion

“This report has demonstrated the fact that older women make valuable contributions

both in work and in caring for younger and older generations – yet older women as a

group remain invisible to policymakers. Enabling older women to work for longer and

alongside caring responsibilities could make an enormous positive difference not only

to their lives, but to their families and society more widely.”

This week I had a chat via the web with Karen Woodall (The Family Separation Clinic) among other things we were discussing the ever changing roles of women, what feminism has done to us over the years- as we are the generation that grew up with it, we feel well qualified to discuss.

In particular the legacy that we have left to our younger women, and how some women now wield this power to emasculate men and more importantly deprive them of being a father to their children.

I cannot speak on behalf of, or even as eloquently as Karen (click on the link at the foot of this post to visit her site.)

What I will say is this- and I repeat my request from my International Women’s day post –  take a step forward, try and build a new relationship with those that are estranged from you and your child/children, in particular the father’s.

All you are doing is contributing to an even heavier workload and the stress, of the men & women that have gone before you and worked hard to fight for your right to be recognised, while in return, what is it that you give?

 

A Simple Plea on International Women’s day

http://karenwoodall.wordpress.com/2014/03/20/the-female-of-the-species-is-more-deadly-than-the-male/

If you have any thoughts on this please comment, if you are part of the sandwich generation we particularly want to know how we can help contact us.

 

would you like to join our facebook support group?

https://www.facebook.com/groups/Grandparentsupport/ Just click on the link, it is closed group to protect your privacy, we welcome all alienated family members!

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” Maya Angelou

Family Law is undergoing radical change and it is gathering pace, there have been calls from all those involved within the system to change the system, I speak predominantly from experience as an Alienated Grandmother that has been within that system for some years!

Yet I challenged my own right to have rights, and then I changed my attitude, it was not my right, but my grandchild’s right to continue our relationship, yet it was not my right or was it?

I believe it was my right to fight for a family life, is that not a human right?

Do we not allow all manner of folk to enjoy their human rights?  stop and think about this?

Think of how many times you have heard some ne’er do well quote their human rights?  think again of whatever the crime they committed, and were convicted of yet they were given this or that on the auspices of their human rights!

I do not wish to get into specifics as I do not wish to appear to be in favour of this, that or the other, wishy washy? you may think so, but I do believe in the law for without it the world would be in far more chaos!

I also believe in communication and a better way forward for all families, particularly those who are estranged and alienated, if you want to make the world a better place for your children and your grandchildren get in contact.

Today we celebrate the nine month anniversary of a working contact order that took nine long years to achieve, this weekend we will celebrate the history of our family with our granddaughter, who is also a niece, a cousin, a great-niece, and just an ordinary little girl whom we love!

 

If you wish to join us in supporting family life or you need help, get in contact.

Why an inquisitorial system for family courts won’t work