Call your parents, call your children, practise forgiveness & move forward.

Alienation is in the news more and more, parental alienation and now even grandparent alienation, something few had heard of is now being recognised.

J.K. Simmons a man of honour who recognises the need to salute family

Separating the parent from the teacher,

Some teachers are parents and some parents are teachers

Some are neither.

Being a parent can be tough, it can be amazingly rewarding too,

Not everyone is cut out to be a parent

The same can be said of teachers too.

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Understanding alienation and the wider dynamics of adult psychology.

Good Morning all, I do a lot of research in ‘my work’ which involves reading endlessly and trawling the web for good information, and sometimes I hit upon a golden nugget!
This is such a nugget, in a nutshell it covers what I have spent a lifetime learning through self-development- I urge you to watch and share with all your family and friends #‎notjustforgrandparents

Too long for you? consider this:

Before you spend valuable time watching your favourite film or TV programme, give yourself the New Year Gift of understanding yourself and your families dynamic psychology.

There is no leading authority on the issue of grandparent alienation or parental alienation, but you’ll have to do a lot of surfing of the net to beat these guys:

http://www.aga-fl.org/

#notjustforgrandparents

 

 

Grandparents and parents are unforgettable

As I listen to Nat King Cole and his immortal words in the song ‘unforgettable’ I am reminded of why I started Grandparent Support, although the song was originally written as a love song for probably between two adults, I remember thinking on one of those unhappy Christmases in the not too distant past, when I was denied contact with my beautiful granddaughter, that I would not give up nor forget her, and in my heart I knew because of our bond that she would not forget me either.

When Natalie Cole released the virtual duet with her father in 1991 (who had died in 1965) it became my #1 Favourite and a testament to the power of love and music.

The song kept a light within in me, a small flickering light that was to burn like a flame and become my strength, it made me think of other songs too, songs that my granddaughter and I had enjoyed listening to together, one of her favourites that I had introduced her to is A windmill in old Amsterdam.

She still asks for this whenever I pick her up in the car, and we never fail to chuckle away with the mice at the end.

We have come to love other tunes together, you see that flame turned into a roaring fire that blazed through several courts and many negotiations and reconciliations, we have a working contact order that has been successfully in place now for over 18 months and with an open heart and an ever listening ear forcommunication and understanding it is set to continue.

My wish for all who are separated from their loved ones through family conflict this season is to have an open heart and an open mind and try again with the lines of communication, in whatever form that helps you as a family.

If you would like a dedication played on our radio show do please get in contact.

Summer Holiday Play-scheme List Manchester 2014

If your Looking for places for the Grandchildren then look no further…………………………………….

The following is a list of open access playschemes that will be operating during the Summer holidays.

Open access schemes are generally free of charge, however some may ask for a small donation. Parents/Carers need to go with their child on the first day to complete a registration form, places can not be pre-booked and places are offered daily on a first come first served basis.

If your child has additional needs please discuss with the individual playscheme how they can best support your child.

North Manchester 

Big Life Centre
Venue
: Cheetwood Centre, Brackenhurst Drive , M7 4YG

Contact: Sian Sweeney 0161 792 5203

Dates: 4th August-30th August

Times: 1-4pm

Age range:  6 – 14 yrs

 

Kutchi Sunni Muslim Association
Venue
: Dada Hall, 20 Brideoak St, Cheetham Hill, M8 0PN
Contact: Nazma Mitha  0161 203 4631

Dates: 4th August- 22nd  August

Times: 9.00am – 1.00pm  /  1.30pm–3.30pm

Age range:  6 – 14 yrs

 

Grumpy- ‘Everyone can play’
Venue
: Whitemoss Youth and Community Centre
Contact: Ruth Northall 0161 737 1644

Dates: 4th, 5th, 6th, 8th, 11th, 12th, 13th and 15th August

Times: 1.00pm -4.00pm

Age range : 6 – 14 yrs

 

Higher Blackley Youth Centre
Venue
: Higher Blackley Youth Centre, Victoria Avenue, M9 0RA
Contact: Elaine Young 0161 437 5923

Dates: 11th August- 29th August / 1.00pm- 4.00pm

Times: 2-5 pm

Age range:  6 – 14 yrs

 

Turkey Lane & Monsall
Venue
: TLM Centre, Jocelyn Street, Monsall, M40 8PR
Contact: Rose McCarton  0161 205 8608

Dates: 29th July- 15th August

Times: 10.00am – 12.30pm / 1.30pm – 4pm

Age range:  6 – 12 yrs 

 

East Manchester 

 

Beswick 4 CT
Venue
: The Grange, Pilgrim Drive, Beswick, M11 3TQ
Contact: Kay Gallagher  0161 230 1420

Dates: 4th August – 22nd August

Times: 10.00 am – 12.30pm / 1pm – 3.30pm

Age range:  8 – 12 yrs

 

Grumpy- ‘Everyone can play’
Venue
: St George’s Youth & Community Centre, Livesy St, Collyhurst, M40 7NX
Contact: Ruth Northall 0161 737 1644

Dates 28th, 29th, 30th, 31st July / 1st 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th August

Times: 1-3pm

Age range : 6 – 14 yrs 

 

Openshaw 4 CT
Venue
: Sporting Edge Community Centre, Openshaw, M11 1FG
Contact: Kay Gallagher  0161 230 1420

Dates:4th August- 22nd August

Times: 10.00 am – 12.30pm / 1pm – 3.30pm

Age range:  8 – 12 yrs

 

Stirling Community Centre
Venue
: Stirling Community Centre, Scotland Hall Road, Newton Heath, M60 6RA
Contact: Elaine Young  0161 437 5923

Dates: 21st July- 8th August

Times: 2.00pm – 5.00pm

Age range:  6 – 14 yrs 

Central Manchester 

3A’s Parent Group

Venue: Claremont Resource Centre, Rolls Crescent, Hulme M15 5FS
Contact: Jackie Burton

Dates: 28th July  –15 th August

Times: 9.30-12.30pm

Age range : 6 – 14 yrs

 

A6 Young People’s Centre (Formerly Longsight Adventure Playground)
Venue
: Wilson Street, Ardwick, M13 9EX
Contact: Elaine Young  0161 437 5923

Dates: 21st July  – 29th August

Times: 2-5pm

Age range : 6 – 14 yrs

 

Aquarius
Venue
: Aquarius Community Centre, 21 Eden Close, Hulme, M15 6AX
Contact: Heather Grant  0161 226 8254

Dates:21st July- 29th August

Times: 10.30am-1.00pm  / 2pm – 4.30pm

Age range:  6 – 14 yrs 

 

Anson Cabin Project
Venue
: Anson Cabin, 38 Meldon Road, Longsight, M13 0TR
Contact: Julie Scott  0161 248 5695

Dates: 21st July – 8th August

Times: 9.30am – 12pm / 1pm – 3.30pm

Age range: 5 – 13 yrs 

 

BAGS + B playscheme
Venue
: Church of Christ Hall, Beresford Road, Longsight M13 0TB
Contact: Farrah Aftab  07581318090

Dates: 4th August -22nd August

Times: 9.00am- 12.00 pm / 1.00pm- 3.00 pm

Age Range:  6 – 14 yrs 

 

Deaf Community Playscheme
Venue
: Manchester Deaf Centre, Crawford House, Booth St East, M13 9GH
Contact: Gemma Ryles 0161 273 3415

Dates: 22nd  July – 8th August

Times: 10.00 am – 3.00pm

Age range:  8- 16 yrs 

 

Moss Side Adventure
Venue:
Whitnall St, Moss Side, M16 7JD
Contact: Lee Ann Igbon  0161 226 3311

Dates 21st  – 8th August

Times: 12-3pm

Age range : 6 – 14 yrs

 

Moss Side Power House
Venue
: The Powerhouse, Raby St, Moss Side, M14 4SL

Contact: Lydia Anthony 0161 225 1064

Dates: 11th– 29th August

Times:10.00am-12.30pm / 1.00pm- 3.30pm

Age range:  6-11 yrs

 

Moss Side and Hulme Roller Sports

Venue: Work for change building, 41 Old Birley St , M15 5RF

Contact: Elvereen Fletchman 0161 868 0513

Dates: 21st July- 29th August

Times: 1.00pm- 4.00pm

Age range:  6-14 yrs

 

Proctors Youth Centre (Manchester Young Lives)
Venue
: Jackson Crescent, Hulme, M15 5AL
Contact: Lee Ann Igbon  0161 437 5923
Dates: 4th August  – 22nd  August

Times:  12-3pm

Age range : 6 – 14 yrs

 

Slade Lane Playscheme
Venue
: Slade Lane Neighbourhood Centre, Stockport Rd, Longsight, M13 0RZ
Contact: Pat Coleman  0161 224 1451

Dates: 21st July- 8th August

Times: 9.30am – 12pm / 1pm – 3.30pm

Age range: 6 – 13 yrs

 

Trinity House

Venue: Trinity House, Grove Close, Rusholme, M14 5AA
Contact: Lydia Anthony  0161 225 1064

Dates: 21st July- 8th   August

Times:10.00am–12.30pm /1.00pm  – 3.30 pm

Age range: 6 – 11 yrs 

South

Aim 2 Inspire
Venue
: Westcroft Centre, Westcroft Avenue, Burnage, M20 6EF
Contact: Dawne Bowes  07951727830

Dates: 28th July-22nd  August  (Not Wednesdays)

Times: 10.00am- 12.30 pm / 1.30pm- 3.30pm

Age Range:  7- 14 yrs

 

Barlow Moor Playscheme
Venue
: Barlow Moor Community Centre, 23 Merseybank Ave, Chorlton, M21 7NT
Contact: Lucy Ingham  0161 446 4805

Dates: 21st July- 1st August

Times: 9.15am- 12.15 am / 1.00pm- 4.00 pm

Age Range:  5 – 9 years / 9 – 14 years

 

Chorlton Youth Project

Venue: Chorlton Central Church, Barlow Moor Rd, Chorlton, M21 8BF

Contact: Irvine Williams 0161 446 4805

Dates: 28th July-15th August

Times: / 10.00am -12.30pm  / 1.15pm-3.30pm

Age Range: 6-12 yrs

 

Community on solid ground

Venue: Manley Park Play Centre, York Avenue, Whalley Range, M16 0AS

Contact: Majid Dar 07966882856

Dates: 30th July-21st  August

Times: 11.00am -1.30pm

Age range:  6-14 yrs 

 

JNR8

Venue: JNR8 Youth and Community Centre, 82 Cromwell Avenue, Whalley Range, M16 0BG

Contact: Alison Chisholm 0161 881 3744

Dates: 21st July-8th August

Times: 2.30pm – 5.00pm

Age range:  6-14 yrs

 

Old Moat Playscheme
Venue
: Old Moat Primary School, Old Moat Lane, Withington, M20 3FN
Contact: Paula O’Reilly  07977516998

Dates: 21st July- 29th August

Times: 1.30pm – 4.00pm

Age Range: 6- 11 yrs

 

Ladybarn Community Centre
Venue
: Ladybarn Community Centre, Royle St, Fallowfield
Contact: Kirsty Henderson / Gary Levesconte  0161 225 2093

Dates: 28th July- 15th August

Times: 9.00am – 12pm / 1.00pm – 4pm

Age range: 6 – 11 yrs

 

Wythenshawe

 

Benchill Community Playscheme
Venue
: Benchill Community Centre, Benchill Rd,  Wythenshawe, M22 8EJ
Contact: Brenda Grixti  0161 945 0879

Dates: 21st July-8th  August

Times: 9.30am –12.30pm / 1.00pm– 4.00pm 

Age range:  6- 14 yrs

 

Royal Oak
Venue
: Royal Oak Community Centre, Brookcott Rd, Baguley, M23 1DU
Contact: Gina Hall 0161 998 2146
Dates: 28th July – 29th August

Times: Monday and Thursdays 9.30-12.30 / 1-4 pm

Age range: 6 – 14 yrs

 

The Addy Young Peoples Centre
Venue
: The Addy Young Peoples’ Centre, Woodhouse Lane, Wythenshawe,

M22 9TF
Contact: Elaine Vickers  0161 437 8950

Dates: 21st July  – 29th  August

Times:12-3pm

Age range : 6 – 14 yrs

 

Wythenshawe Community Initiative
Venue
: Woodhouse Park Family Centre, Stoneacre Rd, Wythenshawe, M22 5TB
Contact: Clare North  0161 498 0292

Dates: 23rd July-22nd August

Times: 10.00am – 12.30pm / 12.30pm- 3.00pm  (Wednesday, Thursday, Friday)

Age range: 5 – 13 yrs

 

Wythenshawe Community Initiative @ Milky Button Park
Venue
: Milky Button Park, Greenbrow Road, Baguley, M23 2ET
Contact: Clare North 0161 498 0292

Dates: 21st July-19th  August

Times: 10.00 –12.30pm / 12.30pm– 3.00pm (Monday and Tuesday only)

Age range:  6- 13 yrs

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Welcome to Grandparent Support Greater Manchester

Grandparent Support wishes to raise awareness of all  the issues that contemporary grandparents face, we need your help to circulate our leaflet so that we may help others to help themselves, by setting up support groups tailor made for specific needs, throughout the North West.

What is Grandparent Support?

Grandparent Support is an online and community based support network set up for all grandparents who need support, whether you are raising your grandchildren or you have no contact with them.

Who do we support?

      The “Sandwich Generation”

      Grandparent Carers & their Families

      Alienated Grandparents & their Families

We also welcome other alienated members of the family, from parents or step-parents, brothers and sisters, to aunties, uncles and cousins.

Supporting Alienated Grandparents and their Families

There are over 1 million Grandparents who are alienated from their grandchildren in the UK alone. It is also a worldwide problem.

Alienation can happen for a variety of reasons, including:

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Relationship breakdown

Bereavement

Substance abuse

Domestic violence

Family squabbles

Debt

Homelessness

If you have been alienated as part of a break-up process, or are no longer in contact with your grandchild for any reason, we can support you with ideas and information on how to move forward. We also have a monthly support group that you can attend.

Supporting Grandparent Carers and their Families

There are up to 300,000 grandparent carers in the UK: grandparents who are bringing up grandchildren that live with them (resident grandchildren).

There are many more that care for their grandchildren while a parent works – some of these grandparents do not even consider themselves grandparent carers!

If you would like to know what help is available in your area or wish to meet up with other grandparent carers, come along to one of our support group meetings.

Supporting the “Sandwich Generation” of Grandparents

The ‘Sandwich Generation’ is a term applied to grandparents who are looking after their grandchildren and taking care of their elderly relatives too.

As our population increases in age and more and more people choose to live independently as they grow older, many grandparents have a dual role of caring for both young and old alike.

This can put increasing pressure on this age group (typically 45-65), many of whom are still working.

We wish to support grandparents who find themselves in this situation, and are finding it increasingly difficult to juggle these responsibilities. Come and join us for support.

Support in your area

If you would like a support group in your area or you are willing to help run one voluntarily, please contact us.

A group can be just once a month, or however frequently your group prefers.

No experience is needed just your time, energy and empathy.

All Volunteers are required to supply up-to-date references and undergo an enhanced DBS (CRB) check.

Contact Grandparent Support

Write to:

Geraldine Walsh-Whiteside

Grandparent Support Ltd.

C/o  WhiteMoss Youth & Community Centre, Southdown Crescent,  Blackley, Manchester. M9 7DQ

 

EmailGrandparentsupport@hotmail.com

A reply is usually guaranteed within 48hrs.

 

Find us online:

http://twitter.com/grandparentsupp

www.facebook.com/GrandparentSupport

http://grandparentsupport.org

To download our leaflet click Grandparent Support Manchester Trifold Leaflet

 

Thank you for your helpforgetme not

 

The Simple Act of Forgiveness

I have long since learned to forgive, just small things, then some huge, but never more so than in the battle to see my granddaughter.

Forgiveness is also about your own pre-conceived notions and how to eradicate them, you need to take a step back and re-evaluate.

Fine words- hard to put into practice unless you try, try and try again.

How do you go about it? Well that all depends on the offence or level of it, could you forgive someone for stealing from you? For me it depends on what they stole but more importantly why they stole it?

Was it just to have whatever they stole as a possession? They didn’t have what you had, and maybe their envy caused them to steal?

Maybe they stole to survive, would you still condemn and thus not forgive?

I suppose that all comes down to the offence.

I have often said here that you must not break the law to prove your point, it may attract attention in the short term, but it does nothing for your long term goal, does it?

Or does it? Well that all depends on the law of the land at that particular time doesn’t it.

Think Nelson Mandela and then have a re-think, why was he jailed in the first place? Why was he freed? Why and how did he change history?

Then think again about his strongest message- forgiveness.

If you are a grandparent reading this, forgive and build bridges to move forward.

If you are a parent reading this, forgive and build bridges to move forward.

If you are a politician and law maker reading this, adapt and change law to move forward.

If you are a child reading this, forgive them for they know not what they do!

‘Cinderella’ emotional cruelty law considered’

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-26814427